This is not complicated & is very simple. Well.... Actually it's a cluster fl&k...Well the titles says it and i dont know what to do. I am getting married this september and all of these people are in my wedding. Here it is. ive known Brian for 12 years.since highschool. I am 25. He has been with Amy since 2006.Ive been working with Brian since 2005. I work next to him all day! Josh is my riding buddy. Only person i ride with on the regular. Ive only been good friends with Josh since about 2009. I just foound out that Amy and Josh have something going on.:spank: what do i do??????? brian is an *** to his gf she doesnt desever it but it doesnt give her the right to cheat on him. and josh,,,,,he goes over there with us on the weekends! when i found this out I almost felt like i was being cheated on. my stomach hurt! A few things ive been thinking about
-afraid to tell brian. what will he do?
-lose josh as a friend?
-lose brian as a friend because i didnt tell him and he finds out i knew???
-my fiance nicole looses amy as a friend?
-brian goes crazy and looses job? id be screwed if that happend!
-whats gonna happen to the bridal party?
Thank you for any input
Well he is "All In" now so let the drama begin!ack... imo, u really, really should not have allowed it to be about "u knowing the secret" etc. their drama has nothing to do with u, and by putting urself in the confrontation position, u've now just gone from being a "bystander friend" to "nosey, meddling participant" in both the cover up & the drama.
ur friend will not like that u kept the secret from him for this long and secretly harbor resentment towards u- regardless of how "ok" he seems about it in front of u. and the cheater friend will hate u for ratting him out.
as a friend to both sides, u simply have moral issues & feel stuck in the middle. and, honestly a simple, anonymous note or email to all parties involved or something would've been much cleaner. then just act surprised.
Just my .02....
I wish I didn't find out and I wish he would find out on his own. But I was told so now I'm in the middle. The talk last night was to tell josh to handle it how he needs too. But it has to be done now because now people know.i didn't want anything to do with this. But the news was givin.ack... imo, u really, really should not have allowed it to be about "u knowing the secret" etc. their drama has nothing to do with u, and by putting urself in the confrontation position, u've now just gone from being a "bystander friend" to "nosey, meddling participant" in both the cover up & the drama.
ur friend will not like that u kept the secret from him for this long and secretly harbor resentment towards u- regardless of how "ok" he seems about it in front of u. and the cheater friend will hate u for ratting him out.
as a friend to both sides, u simply have moral issues & feel stuck in the middle. and, honestly a simple, anonymous note or email to all parties involved or something would've been much cleaner. then just act surprised.
Just my .02....
i agree, im a loyal friend...the brotherhood me and my best friend have is priceless and the respect and honor we share is a great feat that many people cant achieve between two people...id never let my kin be betrayed like that and id expect them to defend me all the same.Im pretty surprised how many people would just ignore something like this...
I see my friends as my family. If I knew my brothers wife was cheating on him, damn right I am going to tell him. If one of my friends knew my wife was cheating on me and said nothing, guess what? They would no longer be my friend if I found out. If you did come and tell me, I would have twice as much respect for you.
Best advice in this threadI've been in those situation back in the days. Stay out of it and play dumb... Or maybe you could corner Amy and black mail her saying: "If I don't get a BJ I will tell everything" LOL
No just joking... but really good idea hey? LOL
Stay out of it. Maybe she just want to hit it hard before committing. I did stupid thing with girlfriends back in my days too. That's the difference between being married and have a girlfriend... different kind of commitments.
I walked in on my cousins GF cheating while looking for him. Went straight to his job and told him. Drove him home to deal with it and back him up. Threw them both out on the street and we've been tighter ever since.
Don't know if switchin' teams is the answer.I walked in on my cousins GF cheating while looking for him. Went straight to his job and told him. Drove him home to deal with it and back him up. Threw them both out on the street and we've been tighter ever since.