I agree with most of what's been said. You need to get this information out there (while trying to keep yourself out of the crossfire) so it's over and done with before your wedding. My wife and I had a now ex-friend almost ruin ours. Get it out in the open TONIGHT!
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his gf is cheating
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JSP
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I would not consider Josh a "friend" anymore. If he would pull that stuff with his other so called friend's girls. So no loss on that one IMO.
Brian would be your friend as he is innocent in all this for the most part.. If you value that, I would have to do something.
Your fiance lose Amy as a friend? Again, would not consider her a friend after this anyways.
If I knew one of my buddies was screwin with another buddies girl, I would probably kick his *** myself. Would take a LONG time to gain that trust back if ever. If he would screw with someone elses girl, who know if he would make a pass at yours. Not people I want to associate with.
I absolutely hate cheating and would sever ties with the offenders.
I would just come straight out to your friend Brian and tell him. Be a man. You would want the same if he knew something about your girl and your friend. Let him know some shit came up that he may want to look into. Has come to your attention that Josh and your girl may be more than friends... or however you want to say it.
Seems you either lose Josh and Amy or you lose them all...
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Chucker
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Tell Brian to watch the movie "The Dilemma", and say "There's no hidden reason I'm recommending it. Really, there isn't. Nudge, nudge, wink, wink, say no more, say no more..." If he doesn't catch on, he's got bigger problems.
CrazyCawi
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Tell brian asap. You dont want to spend your wedding day thinking about how they intermingled.
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GHOSTWITTHEMOST
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Thanks for all the helpful inputs! We are talking to Josh tonight to start. Our friend Justin is coming over now and we are gonna talk about how we're gonna handle it. Then we're calling Josh to come over.
DragonBlu
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What Jay said. I hate cheaters! Burn him! Burn her! Burn them all! :zombie:
I agree with Jay. This Josh dude seems shady as hell. If he has no qualms with messing around with another friend's girl, I wouldn't trust him anymore. Same goes for Amy. Sucks to lose a friend and riding buddy, but he brought it on himself. Find new friends.
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GHOSTWITTHEMOST
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Thanks jay! Cheating makes me sick! I feel sick right now.
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GHOSTWITTHEMOST
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U should end something before u start something new with someone else
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JSP
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Agree. I will come right out and say it too, I met my wife while she was married (some here know this). We were best friends for a long while. Nothing more. Never once made a move on her, never once tried anything. I respected her and our friendship and did not want to lose that. We for the most part only hung out with our group of friends. Her husband wasnt really part of that group (they were not a close couple, does not matter though). I moved back across country for a while and turns out we missed each other a whole lot. When I moved back, friendship continued... Once we realized we may have actual feelings for each other, we sat down and actually talked about it. She went and talk to him, packed her stuff up and left that same night. Told him why, etc. I still felt bad... But I feel that was the best way the situation could have gone. No cheating, once feelings were known to exist, she ended it.
We have been married for almost 10 years now with a 8 year old daughter.
Blue-Sun
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If you are asking for opinions... I'm in agreement with staying out of it.
Don't get involved and let the chips fall where they may.
About 10 years ago I found out my (live-in) girlfriend's sister in law was cheating on her husband. I stayed out of it, kept my mouth shut, let the guy figure it out on his own and I just acted stupid when it all blew up.
My girlfriend never found out that I knew about the extra-marital affair and our relationship didn't suffer.
Ultimately, all cheaters get caught... The best thing is NOT to be collateral damage when it all blows up.
Just my opinion...
BKP
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Punt...
Give it to Amy to make right... and stay the hell out of it...
Give it to Amy to make right... and stay the hell out of it...
I've been in those situation back in the days. Stay out of it and play dumb... Or maybe you could corner Amy and black mail her saying: "If I don't get a BJ I will tell everything" LOL
No just joking... but really good idea hey? LOL
Stay out of it. Maybe she just want to hit it hard before committing. I did stupid thing with girlfriends back in my days too. That's the difference between being married and have a girlfriend... different kind of commitments.
No just joking... but really good idea hey? LOL
Stay out of it. Maybe she just want to hit it hard before committing. I did stupid thing with girlfriends back in my days too. That's the difference between being married and have a girlfriend... different kind of commitments.
Bert-Aus
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EsrTek
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Lot's of advice here, some good some bad (I don't have the time to read it all), in the end it's all shit.
Go relax your mind (whatever you do to chill) then with a clear head ask yourself and go with your gut.
Personally, If no one knows you know, then deny everything!! and stay out of it.
Get some popcorn for the loldrama bomb upcoming.
Go relax your mind (whatever you do to chill) then with a clear head ask yourself and go with your gut.
Personally, If no one knows you know, then deny everything!! and stay out of it.
Get some popcorn for the loldrama bomb upcoming.
blkbrd
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I was on the other end of a situation like this years ago. My now ex-wife was fooling around with a guy at her work. I could sense her lies about where she was and who she was with, but she would never admit anything. A good friend of mine came to me one day and told me what he was hearing (a friend of his worked at the same place as my ex). Once I confronted ex, told her I knew the guys name, she admitted everything. To this day, that friend telling me about that was the best thing he ever did for me. Made me see her for who she really is. It was very tough for him to do it, and he told me that, but I am thankful that he did. Either way this sucks for all involved and there are no winners.
Just my $.02
Just my $.02
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Alex6
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Call Jerry Springer ASAP.
mate, i have been friends with my best friend ( raphael) for 8 years now, if his women was cheating id be the first to tell him, as hard as that may be.... but my friend doesnt treat his girl like your friend seems to so id say call his girl ( amy) out on it and tell her if she wont tell him you will and thats all you can do as a good friend... what ever the consequence come out to they are a result of her choice of being dishonest and not being loyal...not from your actions....she clearly isnt strong enough to leave when she should and thats not your fault or your friend brian but after 12 years man you have an obligation to be a man and be honest to him and be there for him and his best interest.
bloodypulp
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I knew there was a movie in this somewhere. Sh.. Didn't go well in that so watch yourself cowboy. Cheaters suck!
pjmac5
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This is about as close to this as I would get.
Once it comes to the light, you are going to be forced to choose. Josh sounds like a tool and depending on what you mean by Brian treats Amy poorly, Brian might also fall into that same category.
You are getting married....add a great dog and lose these friends. You will never trust Josh around your wife anyway.