yah. before I got engaged to my wife I got her a promise ring and she wore it on her left ring finger. Same as her wedding ring.
I have no say in this whatsoever... didn't even get my wife an engagement ring... With all my friends on their 2nd and 3rd marriage... I wasn't feeling too good about it all... but, I promised her if she stuck with me, at ten years I'd get her the biggest diamond ring I could afford.... ten years later and that made her day because I brought her with me and we picked it out together
I know... such an anti-romantic...
Straight from the truth (or wiki-pedia anyways)
"Promise rings can be worn on any finger, but those symbolizing pre-engagement are generally worn on the left ring finger; sometimes, the left middle finger or right ring finger is used instead to prevent confusion with an actual engagement ring."
Anybody who buys their girlfriend a "promise ring" is a dumb mook. It is a complete and total invention by the jewelry stores to sell more rings.
I do agree that needing two rings (engagement and wedding band) is an invention of the wedding industry, but I had a different approach and reasoning.
I bought my fiancee a "cheap" (under $200) plain gold band to propose to her. I surprised her with it, proposed, and she said yes. Then the very next day, we went out to a couple jewellery stores and found her a ruby ring as her real wedding ring. The plain gold band was disposable, in a way, but can now also be used as a "travel" ring, when we wouldn't want to risk losing her ruby.
I'm guessing less than 10% of men would be able to choose their fiancee's a ring that they would love and would have chosen themselves.
Love ya Rook, so don't take this the wrong way but...
Anybody who buys their girlfriend a "promise ring" is a dumb mook. It is a complete and total invention by the jewelry stores to sell more rings. A ring to symbolize a promise to someday buy an engagement ring, that symbolizes the promise to someday buy a wedding ring? Ho-lee christ.
Don't do it dude. If anything it just confuses the issue, and cheapens the engagement ring, which is what she's going to wear her whole life (theoretically.)
Promise ring. Just get her a nice pair of earrings are something fashionable if you need to get her a gift.
OK, rant over.
the reason I say right hand is it avoids her having to explain every time someone asks are you marriied, why wasnt I invited, and is that your engagment ring, its kind of small?
which then denotes the positive of the actual ring.