i think i know what you are trying to say and assuming my comprehension is correct here is the diggity:
When using a tighter suspension, especially at higher speeds, your wheels are going to lose contact with the ground, albeit for a a very short duration (hopefully), because as we know while surface roads are for the most part "flat" they are not perfectly so.
So any little differentiation in "flatness" will cause usually one or more of the tires to actually leave the surface fora a brief time and the bike will feel jittery to a new or inexperinced rider on a stiff suspension.
As long as your bike is well kept, and your tires have the appropriate rating and tread for what you are using them for, this "jittery feeling" shouldnt cause a problem assuming the road maintains its integrity (i.e. not wet,slick,loose gravel,leaves etc etc.).
So you really have 2 choices. Keep the suspension as it is and become comfortable riding this way, or soften it up a bit so the tires can maintain ground contact throughout. However be warned that riding at high speeds with a "soft" suspension has its downsides as well.
jmo. gl and happy riding.